There are certain days of the week I like to follow up with women I meet and text or call them. If they have work or school, Monday - Friday are going to be the 'regular days' she most likely is in the middle of these activities. 

The best days text and call her is the 24-48 hour time frame we talked about in previous post, and specifically (If you are in that time frame) on Sunday.

Sundays, I find, are days were she is relaxing with her family or taking the day to unwind from the normalities of life. I like to text or call at 7pm when most of her days tasks or arran's are done with and  she has free time.

Granted, you can call anytime you want because if she is attracted to you, she will put down what she is doing and answer your call.

For guys who want the 'perfect timing'... There you go. 7pm on Sunday afternoon. Keep posted as I plan to talk about the perfect days for taking her on a date.

At 2am (actually around 1:45) most of the clubs in my city clear out. The bouncers come down the ails waving their flashlight like police chasing suspects.

The club is cleared and you see crowds of people outside having their last minute banter and saying goodbyes to each other as they depart to their cars (or taxis)...

End of the nigh club goers keep going... The nights not over yet. Theres still people out, theres still hot chicks out, party time. 


This is were you can still go hard in the paint, post up, and dunk. No lay ups here... Its the end of the night, 10 seconds left in the game. You better make this shot... 

Ok, the pressure isn't that bad but my point is its last minute and anything can happen. You might be in the 'be pulling' mindset and attract a women to you last minute. You might meet a girl who is out with her co workers and is attracted by your charismatic tactics she never gets to see because she is not really a 'club person'... The list goes on. 

Don't miss your chance to 'be pulling' tons of women that are the end of the night goers. Meet them and you'll be surprised what you find.

After she gave you her phone number whats the next move? Well, assuming its a real # because you did a good job attracting her in the interaction you have to gauge the timing. 

The answer is 24-48 hours. A women has it fresh in her mind that she met a 'potential man' that she can see herself with or at least is interested enough to follow up with...

Who does the following up? You do.  She is not going to pick up the phone and call you, granted... if you stepped up with a lot of swag and just happened to be 'her type' you might get a text from her that night.

Now, back to 'phone momentum'. Every day that passes after the initial 24-48 hours from the moment you get the phone #, the more the 'phone momentum' starts to die out. She will either think you were not that interested or you hesitated to make a decision to pursue her... Either way the momentum is gone.

Being the man who is decisive and follows up to continue the momentum is attractive. Use 'phone momentum' to your advantage and set up a date after your first few text/calls.

If you have an unconscious feeling that you should not have the women you are talking to for any reason, your mind will trigger negative nervous gestures through your body language. 

Once this happens, she knows... You don't think you deserve her. If you get to this point with a women, the interaction is 99% of the time going to flop. She does not want a man who does not think he should have her.

On the other hand, if a guy makes multiple 'social errors' in a row, is condescending, and makes fun of her, but does it in a way that is congruent to who the guy is and confidently then he will get the women. Why? Because he does not care about her reactions and therefore knows he deserves her. I'm not saying to do all these actions by the way... What I am saying is having the deserving mentality will pull her towards you and attract. She will want you because you deserve her.

I've noticed when I go out there are a lot of guys who put too much 'investment' in one interaction they have with a hottie.

Now, when you do step up, stepping up 99% will not cut it. Only stepping up 100% will work.

If you are stepping up and saying 'what should I say'. This automatically puts you in the worst position and vibe to be in. Why? Because when you ask that question or hesitate in any way, you are IN YOUR HEAD. 

This mindset is not attractive and she will feel this vibe. Women are very intuitive and pick up on the nuances of social interaction. 

The mindset to have is... 'This chick looks interesting, but I can care less were this goes.' or ' I want it it to work, but if it doesn't... next.'

This will detach you from the current situation that might be creating anxiety or tension.

As a man, we have to make the first 'move' with women. She does not want to make the first move. She wants us to take the responsibility off her shoulder and go for it when the moment is right. 

How do you do this? Well, the first thing to keep in mind is that the interaction should always be moving forward. You might start with banter, conversation, teasing, then intuitive physicality. Gaging were the women is at emotionally by reading her body language and facial gestures will allow you to know if you can move forward or not.

The process is 2 steps forward, 1 step back. This is what intuitive physicality is. Reading the situation socially off her vibe or attraction to you. Next time you are out, look to see where you are with a women. See if you can move forward, or have to take a step back. Develop this skill and your dating will start to improve.

How long should you persist to get her attracted? At the minimum 3 times.

Most guys who approach women in night clubs or bars will give a half ass attempt to approach a women. They muster up an ounce of courage to approach 'that one girl' and then when she blows him off. 

Game over.

The game starts with the first test. Expect it. Know that this is the reality of meeting and dating attractive women. Women have options as do men with game. If she see's that you stop trying after the first attempt to approach, she will look at you as a guy with no options... this is not attractive to her.

She likes the man who has options and is interested but can care less if he gets her.

Are you pulling or repelling in your interactions with women? You will know you are pulling when she makes the effort to keep the conversation going when you stop talking. Does she feel 'pulled' to keep your attention?

Repelling. Does she keep looking around hoping to be saved by her friends? If so... you are repelling my friend... This happens if you are at a loss for words in an interaction and she reads your nervous body language gestures. 

Keep pulling stop repelling. Pull by making a statement. Avoid repelling by not being 'in your head' and being fully present to the interaction. Your vibe is created by what you are thinking and is emanating through your body language.